I started this blog while pregnant after feeling frustrated at the lack of twin-specific pregnancy information and blogs I found. Bryant encouraged me to start my own twin blog, with the idea that I could fill in some of the gaps in the blogosphere as I went.
So I tried it; but while I love writing about life with twins, I don’t find satisfaction in writing the sort of helpful, informative articles I was looking for myself a few years ago. The How To Survive Life with Infant Twins and Every Baby Item You Need, Reviewed sections will have to be written by someone else, because that just isn’t my thing.
But I have discovered a new passion: sharing a vision of happy, intentional mom life that doesn’t consider it all drudgery, but all joy. Not a fake-it-through kind of joy, but the joy that arises from loving and serving others, from raising little human souls and seeing their precious goodness amidst the mess and tantrums and the mundane. A mom life that retains some of the wonder we lose as we grow up.
It’s not a unique way of mothering, but I’ve found it sadly lacking in so many of the mommy blogs and cultural discussions these days. The pop culture view of motherhood is enough to scare anyone off having kids, and it scared me until I realized it wasn’t the only way.
So much of life with little kids is that hard kind of good, and I am sure each phase of parenting will be like that. But it can be so good.
It reminds me of what the ghosts in C.S. Lewis’s The Great Divorce learn when they reach heaven and find the blades of grass are more solid and real than they are:
“Reality is harsh to the feet of shadows.”
Living in survival mode is living as a shadow. It’s easier, in a way, to just exist there. The great and glorious reality of mothering little souls, of serving all day and often all night, can be a harsh one to our feeble and selfish nature– but it is shot through with eternal significance, beauty and truth. Life gains color and we gain strength and joy as we enter into the harder and more glorious reality of a living, thriving motherhood.
So I’m refining my focus. I want my little blog to give a glimpse of reality, of beauty, of the joy that being a mom can be. I want to fight harmful popular narratives with truth. I’m a little hesitant lest anyone should think I am happy 100% of the time, or faking my way through, or living an idyllic life in Mayberry. But I hope an honest look at a real and happy life will be an encouragement to other moms, and we can cast a vision of a happier, fuller mom life as we live in light of eternity.